{"id":11023,"date":"2001-01-03T00:11:20","date_gmt":"2001-01-02T22:11:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ph.yhb.org.il\/en\/?p=11023"},"modified":"2022-09-14T12:34:01","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T09:34:01","slug":"13-03-11","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ph.yhb.org.il\/en\/13-03-11\/","title":{"rendered":"11. Exemption from Sleeping \u2013 Married Men"},"content":{"rendered":"

Le-khat\u1e25ila<\/em>, a married man must build a sukka<\/em> where he and his wife can both sleep. Even though women are exempt from the mitzva of sukka<\/em>, a woman who sleeps in the sukka <\/em>fulfills a mitzva. Moreover, if the spouses sleep separately, it diminishes their festival joy. Thus, it is proper to build a sukka<\/em> in which both spouses can sleep (above, 2:14; Har\u1e25avot<\/em> 2:14:5).<\/p>\n

If it is impossible to prepare a place for the wife to sleep in the sukka<\/em> \u2013 for instance, if the sukka<\/em> is too small, or there are other men who need to sleep there, and they cannot build another sukka <\/em>just for the couple \u2013 and the couple is mitzta\u2019er <\/em>when they sleep apart, some say the man may sleep in their bedroom at home. This is because the mitzva of sukka<\/em> is for a man to sleep in the sukka<\/em> in the way that he normally sleeps in his home, which is with his wife. If they cannot both sleep in the sukka<\/em>, he is exempt (Rema 639:2). Others say that the man is exempt only if the couple are truly mitzta\u2019er <\/em>when they cannot sleep in their bedroom (MA ad loc<\/em>. 8). Still others say that a married man has the same obligation to sleep in the sukka<\/em> as a single man, and even if he is mitzta\u2019er <\/em>from sleeping in the sukka<\/em>, apart from his wife, he is still obligated to sleep in the sukka<\/em>. Only on special nights (such as when he and his wife will fulfill the mitzva of having marital relations with the regularity to which they are accustomed) is he exempt from sleeping in the sukka<\/em> (Vilna Gaon; MB 639:18).<\/p>\n

In practice, if one is truly mitzta\u2019er <\/em>when he sleeps apart from his wife he must invest effort and money into building a sukka<\/em> where they can be together. If it is very difficult for him to do so, he may, if he wants, rely on those who are lenient and sleep inside.[16]<\/a><\/sup><\/p>\n

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\n[16]<\/a>. According to Rema (Darkhei Moshe<\/em> 639:3), a mitzva of sukka<\/em> (which obligates only men) is to sleep there along with one\u2019s wife. Indeed, many people put up a sukka<\/em> which enables this. If it is very difficult to build such a sukka<\/em>, he is exempt from sleeping in the sukka<\/em>, because being apart takes away from their joy and causes sorrow to one or both of them. This leniency applies even when the woman is a nidda<\/em>, all the more so when she is not and being apart would cause them to neglect the mitzva of having marital relations (ona<\/em>). Taz<\/em> (639:9) similarly states that if a man wants to make his wife happy by sleeping in the same room as her even when she is a nidda<\/em>, he is considered to be engaged in one mitzva (ona<\/em>), and thus exempt from another (sleeping in the sukka<\/em>). SAH ad loc<\/em>. 9 concurs. However, MA ad loc<\/em>. 8, based on Shlah<\/em>, says that the man is exempt only if he is mitzta\u2019er <\/em>when he sleeps apart from his wife. Levush<\/em> concurs. It seems that they would apply this even when the wife is a nidda<\/em>. Vilna Gaon and Sha\u2019ar Ephraim<\/em> maintain that the mitzva of sukka <\/em>does not entail sleeping in the sukka <\/em>along with his wife. Similarly, Nishmat Adam<\/em> (147:1) states that the mitzva to make one\u2019s wife happy on Yom Tov is fulfilled by buying her clothing, not by sleeping in the same room as her. This is also the position of Bikurei Yaakov<\/em> (639:18) and MB (ad loc.<\/em> 18). They add that on any night that the couple fulfills the mitzva of ona <\/em>with their regular frequency, the husband is exempt from sukka<\/em> for the entire night.<\/p>\n

Rema in Darkhei Moshe<\/em> writes that one who trembles at God\u2019s word will try to build a sukka<\/em> where he and his wife can sleep, and thus serve God with joy, and that this is the custom of those who are meticulous. This is also the view of Derekh Ha-\u1e25ayim<\/em>; SAH; \u1e24ayei Adam<\/em>; and others. Nevertheless, it would seem from the poskim<\/em> that there is no obligation to spend a lot of money to build an extra sukka<\/em> where he and his wife can sleep. The reason seems to be that since the sukka<\/em> is a temporary residence, one needs to invest in it only what he would invest in renting an apartment for a week. It should be noted that, privacy permitting, it is permissible to have marital relations in a sukka<\/em> (BHL 639:1 s.v. \u201cve-al\u201d).<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Le-khat\u1e25ila, a married man must build a sukka where he and his wife can both sleep. Even though women are exempt from the mitzva of sukka, a woman who sleeps in the sukka fulfills a mitzva. Moreover, if the spouses sleep separately, it diminishes their festival joy. Thus, it is proper to build a sukka […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[209],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11023","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-13-03"],"yoast_head":"\n11. 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