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Mourners are forbidden to greet people (lit., \u201cseek the peace of others\u201d) (Sh.A., Y.D. 385). Likewise, one may not extend greetings to others on Tish\u2019a B\u2019Av<\/em> (Sh.A., O.C. 5554:20). [After all], just as a person who has lost a close relative is not in a state of \u201cpeace,\u201d no one is in a state of \u201cpeace\u201d on Tish\u2019a B\u2019Av<\/em>, because we are mourning the destruction of our Holy Temple.<\/p>\n

In particular, Torah students who know the halachah<\/em> must be careful in this regard. However, when a person unfamiliar with the halachah<\/em> extends greetings to another, the recipient should return the greeting in a soft voice and serious tone, as one who is preoccupied with thoughts of mourning and sorrow, making sure not to insult the person in the slightest. It is preferable to answer, \u201cGood morning,\u201d and avoid saying, \u201cShalom<\/em>\u201d (\u201cPeace [unto you]\u201d). If the person who initiated the greeting is someone who wants to learn Torah, and there is no concern that he will be insulted, one should explain to him that we do not greet each other on Tish\u2019a B\u2019Av<\/em>.<\/p>\n

According to most poskim<\/em>, one is even forbidden to say, \u201cGood morning\u201d or \u201cGood evening (M.B. 554:41, K.H.C. 90). Some say that only the word \u201cShalom<\/em>\u201d is forbidden, while phrases like \u201cGood morning\u201d are permissible (Leket Yosher). We already mentioned that when necessary – in order not to insult someone – a person may return a greeting; and since some hold that \u201cGood morning\u201d and \u201cGood evening\u201d are not included in the prohibition, it is preferable to use these phrases than to say, \u201cShalom<\/em>.\u201d[15]<\/a><\/p>\n

One who meets a friend who just got married or had a child may wish him a \u201cMazal Tov<\/em>,\u201d for giving someone a blessing is not included in the prohibition of extending a greeting (Piskei Teshuvot 554:19). Similarly, hand shaking is not included in the prohibition (Har Tzvi, Y.D. 290).<\/p>\n

Just as one may not offer greetings on Tish\u2019a B\u2019Av<\/em>, one may not send gifts either (M.B. 554:41). Charity, however, is not considered a gift. Therefore, one is permitted, even obligated, to send food to the needy, so they can have something to eat after the fast (see K.H.C. 554:91).<\/p>\n

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[15]<\/a>The Tosefta (Ta\u2019anit 3:11) states, \u201cOne may not extend a greeting to Chaveirim (Torah Jews) on Tish\u2019a B\u2019Av, but [one may say it] in a soft voice to a simple person.\u201d Some understand [this to mean] that the prohibition applies only to Torah scholars, who are called Chaveirim. This appears to be the Rambam\u2019s viewpoint, as the Bach understands it. However, the Mordechai (Mo\u2019ed Kattan 895) presents a different version of the Tosefta: \u201cOne may not extend a greeting to his friend (chaveiro).\u201d The Shulchan Aruch (554:20) rules in accordance with this [version], [stating] that one may not extend greetings on Tish\u2019a B\u2019Av, and that one who is greeted by someone unfamiliar with the halachah should answer in a soft voice. Virtually all the Acharonim concur. Nonetheless, we learned that one should not bring the matter to a simpleton\u2019s attention, for there are those who say that he is not obligated in this [halachah]. See R. Karp\u2019s work, 7:72. Also see Torat HaMo\u2019adim 8:22.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Mourners are forbidden to greet people (lit., \u201cseek the peace of others\u201d) (Sh.A., Y.D. 385). Likewise, one may not extend greetings to others on Tish\u2019a B\u2019Av (Sh.A., O.C. 5554:20). 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