{"id":8776,"date":"2010-05-16T06:00:03","date_gmt":"2010-05-16T03:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ph.yhb.org.il\/en\/?p=8776"},"modified":"2018-02-26T10:21:05","modified_gmt":"2018-02-26T08:21:05","slug":"05-16-06","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ph.yhb.org.il\/en\/05-16-06\/","title":{"rendered":"06. Who Is Obligated in Mishlo\u2019a\u0125 Manot <\/em>and Matanot La-evyonim<\/em>?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Every Jew is obligated in mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot <\/em>and matanot la-evyonim<\/em>. Even though women are ordinarily exempt from positive time-bound mitzvot<\/em>, they must fulfill the mitzvot <\/em>of Purim, since they too participated in the miracle. For reasons of modesty, one should take care that women send mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot <\/em>only to women and men send only to men. However, one does not need to be particular about this when it comes to matanot la-evyonim<\/em>, as giving charity does not engender excessive familiarity (Rema 695:4 mentions concern for an accidental betrothal through mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot<\/em>).<\/p>\n

Even a married woman must fulfill these mitzvot<\/em>. Therefore, a married couple must send two mishlo\u0125ei manot<\/em> \u2013 one from the husband and one from the wife \u2013 and each mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot <\/em>must contain at least two portions of food. Even though the main objective of sending mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot <\/em>is to foster friendship between the sender and the recipient, it seems that it is unnecessary to specify explicitly that one mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot<\/em> is from the husband and the other is from the wife. This does not detract from the goal of fostering friendship, because it is clear that the mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot <\/em>are from both of them, since they are a married couple. The friendship engendered will thus extend to both of them.<\/p>\n

For matanot la-evyonim<\/em>, a married couple must give the equivalent of four gifts \u2013 two from the husband and two from the wife. It is unnecessary for the wife to give her gifts in person; her husband can distribute them on her behalf. A man may also give these four gifts to two poor people, each one receiving one gift from him and one gift from her. The custom today is to give the equivalent of four gifts to a gabbai tzedaka<\/em>, who then distributes them to two poor people on the couple\u2019s behalf.<\/p>\n

Children who have reached the age at which they are obligated to observe mitzvot<\/em> are obligated in mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot<\/em> and matanot la-evyonim<\/em>, even though they are still dependent on their parents for support. Since the purpose of mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot<\/em> is to increase love among Jews, the child must send them explicitly in his or her name. Regarding matanot la-evyonim<\/em>, however, the parents may give on their child\u2019s behalf.<\/p>\n

It is proper to train children who have reached the age of \u0125inukh<\/em> to observe these mitzvot<\/em>. Some do so by sending them to deliver the mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot<\/em>. Others even give their children food items of their own, so that they can then send to their friends. Regarding matanot la-evyonim<\/em>, some parents give their children money to give to poor people, while others give money to the poor themselves on behalf of their children. In such a case, the parents educate their children to observe mitzvot <\/em>by telling them what they did.[5]<\/a><\/sup><\/p>\n

A poor person who is supported by charity is still obligated in mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot <\/em>and matanot la-evyonim<\/em>. If he has only enough food for his own Purim meal, he should trade with a friend, meaning that each one should give the other the contents of his meal. This way, they both fulfill the mitzva of mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot<\/em>. They should do the same thing regarding matanot la-evyonim<\/em> (sa 695:4, mb 694:1-2).<\/p>\n

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\n[5]<\/a>. The obligation of women in these mitzvot <\/em>is explained in Rema 695:4. However, Pri \u0124adash<\/em> states that they are exempt, since it says in regard to mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot<\/em>, \u201cish le-re\u2019ehu\u201d <\/em>(lit. \u201ca man to his friend\u201d). The Vilna Gaon seems to concur, but the vast majority of poskim<\/em> maintain that women are obligated in these mitzvot<\/em>, because they too participated in the miracle of Purim. So states Sha\u2019arei Teshuva<\/em> 695:9 in the name of Responsa Shvut Yaakov<\/em> 1:45 and She\u2019eilat Yaavetz<\/em> 1:108. ma 695:12 notes his observation that married women are not careful in their observance of these mitzvot<\/em>, perhaps because of the principle that one\u2019s wife is considered like himself. He concludes, however, that women should be stringent in this regard. Eliya Rabba<\/em>, mb 695:25, \u0124ayei Adam<\/em> 155:33, and ahs 695:18 all concur.<\/p>\n

Eshel Avraham<\/em> (Buczacz) states that children are exempt from matanot la-evyonim<\/em>, because they have no money of their own; we educate them only in the mitzva of mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot<\/em>. Pri Megadim<\/em> and Siddur Beit Yaakov<\/em>, however, maintain that one must also educate children in the mitzva of matanot la-evyonim<\/em>.<\/p>\n

A mourner, even during shiva<\/em>, is obligated in all the mitzvot<\/em> of Purim, including mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot<\/em>. According to Sephardic custom, one may send mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot <\/em>to a mourner. According to Ashkenazic custom, however, one must not send mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot <\/em>to a mourner during the entire year of mourning for a parent or during the shloshim <\/em>period for other relatives. When one member of a couple is in mourning, one may send mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot <\/em>to that person\u2019s spouse.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Every Jew is obligated in mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot and matanot la-evyonim. Even though women are ordinarily exempt from positive time-bound mitzvot, they must fulfill the mitzvot of Purim, since they too participated in the miracle. For reasons of modesty, one should take care that women send mishlo\u2019a\u0125 manot only to women and men send only to […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[133],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8776","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-05-16"],"yoast_head":"\n06. 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